Practical Tips for Negotiating the Divorce Process

Making the decision to divorce, or being informed by your spouse that they wish to do so, will often result in strong feelings and emotions. The end of your marriage can be overwhelming – the steps you take to resolve issues arising from the end of your relationship will play a vital role in how matters will be handled and how you can move forward. Here, our expert divorce solicitors provide a list of practical tips to help you manage some of the issues that commonly arise during the divorce process.

Concentrate on what will be best for your children

Your children deserve to have a happy and secure childhood with both parents playing a role in their lives. Conflict between you and your spouse can be confusing and distressing for them, so taking all steps to resolve matters amicably is key. Don’t speak negatively about your partner or involve your children in the separation. Discuss with your spouse when and how to tell your children about the divorce and ensure that the messages they are given are consistent.

Focus on the future instead of the past

Things might not have worked out as you'd expected, but this doesn't mean you've failed. During the breakdown of a relationship, people can act out of character. It always helps to try and stay positive by thinking about the present and moving forward. Try to communicate with your spouse and be amicable – talk about things calmly and objectively to help resolve issues quickly.

Avoid discussing any difficulties on social media

Keep any discussions between you and your partner private. Court proceedings are confidential, so you could be held in contempt of court if you post details on social media. It is also important to remain on good terms as far as possible, so resist the temptation to write comments on your spouse’s social media pages or talk disparagingly about them to friends or family.

Instruct a solicitor

It is essential that you know what your rights are to ensure the best outcome for you and your children, so it is always recommended that you get a solicitor to advise you. Our solicitors can offer clear, sensible and strategic advice to help you reach an agreement as quickly and straightforwardly as possible.

Be realistic and willing to compromise

Any settlement will have to be fair to both parties – it's not about 'winning' or scoring points. The chances of getting everything you want are minimal, so it's important to be pragmatic. Consider mediation to discuss your separation, childcare plans, and how your assets will be shared.

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